You: don’t forget yourself
UPDATE: I have since renamed my business Lisa Kate and changed the direction of this blog, but I thought I would keep this post as it was for posterity!
It is very hard to spend time on yourself after having kids. Combine this with running a business and it means that you have approximately zero minutes to spend doing something just for you.
I do have a strong belief that now is my kids’ time. Time to grow, learn, explore, be protected and respected in a healthy and happy environment. But this amazing 24/7 job called parenting is intense! It is a damn hard job that cannot be done on an empty tank. To provide a happy and healthy environment you yourself need to be happy and healthy. This not only means some basics like good food and sleep (both of which can be hard to come by) but also making some time for yourself to do something that’s just for you. While your business is a big part of you and your creativity, it’s dangerous to make that your only personal outlet. You need to recharge your batteries somewhere.
I am the first to admit I am not good at making time for myself. I definitely feel the weight of all those things on my to-do list and find it hard to let go and take a walk around the block, do some reading, attend an exercise class or get a pedicure. The fact that it takes the cooperation of someone else to care for the kids puts even more pressure on me to make sure I am doing something EXTREMELY useful with my time.
I also know there is a cumulative effect, so if I don’t take even tiny slices of time that are not kid- or business-related I am not a nice person to be around. My patience especially suffers. Being a mum of two young kids (2 1/2 and 8 months) I also feel there is a massive change in who you are physically and mentally after you have a baby. So you need to discover who you are again and what you do (beyond changing nappies and picking up picture books). In many ways you are learning to reinvent yourself!
All of this made it an easy choice for the third main content area on Multiples of Two. It’s all about YOU. I hope to share ideas around personal growth, my personal journey as a mother and small business owner, as well as great finds and experiences that range from simple pleasures to must-haves.